Managing Workplace Conflict: 3 Lessons to Learn from the Super Bowl Game Kelce-Reid Incident

During the recent Super Bowl game, millions of viewers witnessed a tense moment that quickly became a talking point far beyond the realm of sports. Kansas City Chiefs’ star tight end, Travis Kelce, was seen apparently pushing and yelling at Head Coach Andy Reid. The incident seemed to stem from the player’s frustration over being sidelined during a crucial part of the game, leading to an outburst that suggested he was demanding more playing time.

This high-profile episode serves as a powerful example for managers and supervisors across all industries, illustrating the challenges of dealing with insubordinate (and possibly disruptive) behavior in the workplace. If not for Coach Reid’s calm and collected response, this incident could have escalated into a far more unpleasant exchange.

Drawing lessons from the incident, here are three key actions that leaders can take when faced with threatening or insubordinate employees:

1. Exercise Professional Restraint and Demonstrate Leadership

The first lesson is the importance of maintaining composure and professionalism. In any situation where tensions may rise, it’s crucial for managers to exercise restraint and avoid escalating the situation further. This approach not only helps in diffusing immediate tension, but also sets a positive example for the rest of the team. It’s essential that managers not misuse their position of power; rather, as Coach Reid exemplified, demonstrating calm and decisive leadership can often de-escalate a potentially volatile situation.

2. Refer to Company Policies and Engage HR

When dealing with insubordination or an outburst by an employee, it’s important to follow established corporate protocols. Managers should consult the company’s employee handbook for procedures to handle complaints and investigations. Filing a formal complaint with Human Resources can initiate a process that is both fair and impartial. Ideally, the HR department should be properly trained to address a tense situation. This step ensures that all parties are heard, and that the incident is addressed thoroughly, respecting the rights and dignity of everyone involved, and setting an example for the rest of the company.

3. Support the Investigative Process

Once a complaint is filed, cooperating fully with the ensuing investigation is paramount. An effective investigation can uncover the root causes of the conflict, offering insights into not just what happened, but why. By supporting this process, managers can help ensure that resolutions are just, and that similar incidents can be prevented in the future. It’s also an opportunity for organizations to reinforce their commitment to a respectful and safe working environment for all employees.

Conclusion

The incident at the Super Bowl game, while unfortunate, provides valuable lessons for leaders in any field. Managing workplace conflict requires a balanced approach that prioritizes restraint, adherence to company policies, and support for the investigative process. By applying these principles, managers and supervisors can navigate complex interpersonal challenges, fostering a workplace culture that is both respectful and productive.

Recognizing principles of good leadership remains constant and essential, whether on the football field or in the office.

 

Movements and the Leadership Thread: Facebook Groups Leader Jennifer Dulski on What Makes a Movement

“Movements begin with one person, taking one step,” was perhaps the most inspiring line of Jennifer Dulski’s keynote speech of the LMA Annual  2019 Conference.  Dulksi, best-selling author of Purposeful: Are You a Manager or a Movement Starter?; rooted her talk in her experience as leader of Facebook Groups; the incubator for many social movements from parenting to disaster response.  Before working at Facebook, she was the COO of Change.org, an early Yahoo! Employee and the CEO of Dealmap, an app Google eventually bought making Dulski the first female entrepreneur to sell a company to Google.  Dulski’s presentation dissected the elements and leadership needed to create movements, putting those ideas into context with powerful examples that are instantly recognizable.  Dulski’s self-deprecating, approachable and inspiring presentation reminded us that we can all start a movement.

The Leadership Thread and Starting Movements

Dulski points out that “All movements start with small actions made by individual people.”  When put that way, it all seems very possible, that these grandiose changes that impact our world all begin fundamentally, with one person taking one small action.  Dulski’s keynote continued in that vein, as she broke down the components of successful movements into what she called The Leadership Thread, suffusing her points with optimism and anecdotes of real-world examples, showing how this framework fits with some recent grassroots movements.

Courage to Get Started

The Leadership thread begins with garnering the courageto get started.  While it’s one thing to point out movements begin with a single step, it would be a disservice to ignore how difficult it can be to take that first step.  That’s where leaders begin—with finding the courage to start. And Dulski Shared her personal acronym for when she is scared—the idea that gives her the courage to ride her bike through Delhi or take on any of the many challenges that come her way.  She says IICDICDA; or: If I Can Do This I Can do Anything.  This is the kind of thinking that got her through a team building bike ride in Old Delhi with only one cow-related injury—and importantly, acknowledging that fear is normal and inevitable, and being brave isn’t about not feeling fear—it’s about overcoming that fear, and doing things you might not do otherwise.

Clear and Compelling Vision

After finding the courage to start, movement starters create a clear and compelling vision—with an articulated desired future, a clear purpose, and a compelling story.  Humans need inspiration, and so often, that inspiration comes in the form of a story. By distilling your vision into a clear story you can reach others, and giving them a story gives them something to understand.  A story illustrates your vision and makes it something to pick up and carry—allowing others to join in on the load.

Mobilize Others and Encourage Early Adopters

The next step is mobilizing others around that vision.  If others are moved by your story and can see the vision you see, make sure they have the tools and understanding to work beside you.  This means embracing the early adopters.  Empower those who embrace your vision by giving them jobs, responsibilities, and encouragement.  Make them the moderators of a facebook group, and let them share the load.  Giving people meaningful responsibilities in the movement inspires ownership, and the more invested people feel the more they will give.

Persuade Decision Makers

However, some people’s opinion can be the knife’s edge between success and failure—so finding ways to persuade decision-makers can be crucial for realizing success.  This can be as simple as making it easy for the decision maker to say yes—finding what will persuade that individual and putting what they need—hard data, a story, in front of him or her.  In many instances this can involve a variety of tools, so creating a toolkit of available options is an important starting point.  Build a coalition of the willing with a variety of talent at their disposal, and use each tool where appropriate.  One tool Dulski discussed is power mapping or influence mapping—basically, figuring out who influences the people you need to influence, and then influencing them.

Navigate Criticism

Reminding the audience of a Jeff Bezos quote: “If you absolutely can’t tolerate critics, don’t do anything new or interesting.” Dulski points out that any movement needs to learn to navigate criticism.  One map to that is to understand criticism as helpful information—and figure out what just needs to be managed. Dulski outlined additional strategies for handling criticism, including the bear hug, and leveraging the naysayers.

One strategy for pernicious critics is to wrap them in a bear hug—engage the critic to ask why they feel so strongly, and what can you do about it?  Offering to address their concerns in an honest and meaningful way shows a willingness to listen can be disarming. Many critics, when given the opportunity to air their grievances and most importantly, feel heard, will stop the sort of toxic criticism that can be so harmful to movements.

Another way to empower your critics and help accomplish your goals is to leverage the naysayers; this involves embracing the criticism and asking the critic to use his or her expertise to help improve the process. Again, allowing the critic to be heard, and asking for his or her contributions can neutralize the more negative aspect, bringing them to your side as you work together to make improvements.

Overcome Obstacles

Finally, any movement will hit obstacles along the way.  Finding a way to clear the obstacles is important for any movement, and problems—even crisis, is to be expected. Dulski discussed the four kinds of crisis responders, and how a mix of these personality types in response to a crisis is important to weather the storm. The big takeaway, though-is that obstacles are inevitable, and moving forward with your goals is the most important part.  The good news is that if you keep moving up over and under, whatever it takes, you will get through the tough times.

In understanding how people respond to crisis, Dulski offered a helpful categorization tool and discussed the four types of crisis responders.  The first are firefighters—who want to run into the thick of the problem and solve it; addressing any and all issues right away.  Another response are the Fire Inspectors, who want to understand why the problem happened and make sure it never ever happens again.  Both approaches are helpful, and a mix of both on your team is ideal.  Along the same vein, there are the EMTs, who look to the people affected by the crisis and come in, armed with food and concern, ready to focus on the individuals affected and taking care of them.  And finally, there are the Doomsayers, who see crisis as a sign of doom, and are always seeing a new crisis on the horizon.  There are elements of this kind of crisis response in all of us, and making sure the response balances these elements keeps movements on track.

Taking the First Step

Movements are a lot of work–and sometimes you might question whether or not that work is worth it.  Dulski points out that your work will matter, maybe in ways you don’t expect, but it will still matter to someone down the line.  Dulski left the audience with a sense that our actions are not only powerful but can have an impact beyond our wildest expectations.

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Foundations for Success – Leadership in the Legal Marketing Industry with Courtney Lynch (Part 2)

leadership, legal marketingEven though certain leadership abilities are innate, the majority of what makes someone a leader is learned. Becoming a leader involves the study and development of specific behaviors such as meeting and exceeding the expectations a leader has for others, being decisive, serving those they lead, and influencing and inspiring others. Marine Corps Captain Courtney Lynch, along with fellow Captain Angie Morgan, developed ten leadership principles outlined in their book, Leading from the Front. They teach these principles during their workshops1 to help people all over the country to foster their own leadership skills.

Of the 10 leadership principles outlined in Leading from the Front, which do you think is the most critical to start with?

The best leaders demonstrate multidimensional behaviors that build credibility.  If I had to pick one principle that offered a starting point to leader development, it would be accountability.  Seek to take responsibility before you begin to place blame.  It’s human nature to want to blame process, systems, policies or other people when something goes wrong.  Leaders don’t waste time with blame.  They own their role in problems so they can move towards resolution.  As humans, we’ll never be perfect, yet we can strive to perfect our response to the inevitable mistakes we make.  When we demonstrate accountability, we build trust.

Which principle(s) have been the most difficult for people at your workshop to wrap their heads around? How do you help them overcome that?

Surprisingly one of the most difficult concepts for those we work with is to understand that leadership is not about status or power, it’s about behavior.  Our society is so focused on reserving the title leader for those who are in charge.  We’ve all had the experience of working for a boss who wasn’t a leader.  They were clearly in charge, but working for them was miserable.  And, on the flip side, we all know individuals who have significant influence in our working worlds.  They aren’t in charge, yet they have a strong influence over the group.  You can be a leader without being the boss.  The more leaders you have in an organization the better results you’ll achieve.  Leadership is about influence.  You can’t control people — you can only seek to influence them.  The moment you demand, dictate or try to compel, is the moment you become alienating versus inspiring.  Whether you aspire to be a boss or not, learn to lead.  It’s the key to achieving the success that matters most to you.

Do you have a favorite success story from a leadership workshop?

There are so many success stories. They have little to do with me and more to do with the talent, intellect and commitment of those who step up and make the choice to invest their time, energy and resources in the leader development process.   The LMA Leadership Development Certificate Program is an efficient, enjoyable, effective path to betterment.  When you participate you’ll gain powerful insight into your leadership style, you’ll attend a two-day workshop with your peers and you’ll receive personal coaching sessions and access to a highly relevant on-line learning community.   Once you enroll you’ll have a clear roadmap for achieving next level success.  Today’s world moves fast.  We’re busy.  Making a commitment to develop is difficult.  I can assure you those that participate in the LMA Leadership Development Certificate program will see ROI on their time.

Thank you Courtney Lynch for taking the time to speak with the National Law Review. Click here for more information about the LMA Leadership Development Certificate Program.

Click here to read part one: Leadership in the Legal Marketing Industry – Foundations for Success with Courtney Lynch

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1 The Legal Marketing Association and Lead Star will be holding the inaugural LMA Leadership Development Certificate ProgramNovember 15-16 in Chicago. Courtney Lynch and Sean Lynch will be coaching participants to help them develop a unique perspective on their own personal leadership styles and tendencies.

Leadership in the Legal Marketing Industry – Foundations for Success with Courtney Lynch (Part 1)

leadership legal industryThe fast-paced legal industry requires marketers to be quick-thinking, innovative and determined. In addition to embodying these characteristics, leaders in the industry distinguish themselves by being decisive, meeting and exceeding expectations they also set for others, serving those they lead, and influencing and inspiring others. Ultimately, leadership is about taking responsibility for your actions, your team, and your success. As female Captains in the Marines — a rarity — Courtney Lynch and Angie Morgan learned valuable leadership skills. In their best-selling book, Leading from the Front, they argue that by making changes in their behavior and attitude, people can become leaders and improve their careers, their lives and the lives of others. The National Law Review caught up with Courtney Lynch in advance ofLMA’s Leadership Development Certificate Program1 for a two part conversation about leadership.  This  installment discusses how Courtney’s philosophies and time in the Corps influenced her leadership skills and career path as a private citizen. Part two will dive into the leadership principles that she and Angie developed and outlined in Leading from the Front, and how they have helped many others develop leadership skills through their workshops.

When did you first realize that your time in the Marine Corps gave you the tools you needed to become a leader in the corporate/law firm world?

My first private sector role after transitioning out of the Marine Corps was working as a sales representative for a software company.  After just a couple of months in that role I was promoted to a management position.  I was the 2nd youngest person on the team I was managing, and prior to coming on board the company I had zero experience with software development.  I knew then that my leadership skills were responsible for my success.  During my time in uniform I received thousands of hours of leadership training.  Yet, I didn’t know how relevant that training was to the private sector until I started earning promotions and increased responsibility because of my ability to lead people.  You manage things, you lead people.  I used my leadership skills to leverage the outstanding technical abilities others had.

What inspired you and Angie Morgan (co-founder of Lead Star and co-author of Leading from the Front), to found Lead Star?

Angie and I realized that we had had a very unique experience learning to lead as Marines.  Today only about 1% of the population serves in the military.  Yet, all can benefit from the leadership lessons taught to those who wear the uniform.  I believe better leaders mean a better world.   We stated Lead Star to help companies, nonprofits, government agencies and academic institutions develop leaders at all levels.  Leadership development isn’t mysterious, but it does need to be intentional and strategic.  Organizations seeking to achieve greater results through people come to Lead Star to discover the pathway to leader development that works best for their unique culture, goals and objectives.

Do you believe people have innate leadership qualities or that they are made?

Being the lawyer that I am, I’ll answer both to that question.  Today, behavioral science shows us that about 30% of our ability to lead is innate — our intelligence, appearance, personality and charisma are inherent at birth.  The majority of our ability to influence and inspire, about 70% of our leadership capability, is learned.  The key is we have to be open to developing the behaviors that allow us to lead well.  We need to cultivate our credibility, sharpen our ability to be decisive, develop accountability, seek to serve and build our confidence.  The challenge is that many believe leadership fluency is developed along with ascending into positions of authority.  In reality, leadership is not about power, prestige or status.  It’s about responsibility.  When we commit ourselves to developing as a leader we are able to leverage all of our natural strengths and learned capabilities.

How has your time in law school and as an attorney influenced the development of your leadership principles?

Law school prepares you to think in new ways.  Leaders are committed to developing and stretching their thinking.  I loved learning the law and I value how the skills I developed in that pursuit have allowed me to build success as a leadership development practitioner.  Working in a law firm also allowed me to understand the value of leadership development.  I believe it takes less time to become a leader than it does to become a lawyer.  You just have to commit to the pursuit.  Legal professionals invest thousands of hours honing their craft.  If a professional invests just an ounce of that time in growing as a leader, they’ll significantly increase the value of their contribution to an organization, team or family.

Come back tomorrow for part two of our interview with Courtney Lynch.

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1 The Legal Marketing Association and Lead Star will be holding the inaugural LMA Leadership Development Certificate Program November 15-16 in Chicago. Courtney Lynch and Sean Lynch will be coaching participants to help them develop a unique perspective on their own personal leadership styles and tendencies.